Monday, February 21, 2011

what a man!

i love that it says FORVER above us in this picture

i've been slacking with the posting lately, mainly because it takes a lot of time and i am still really pissed about my accidental delete from last week. i'm trying to get over it, for the sake of the children, so here i am tonight.

fortunately, this topic was quick to come to my mind and i thought i would share it with you two.

your. dad. is. awesome.

i should have known from the start of the week it was going to be a little rough- after all, you two did duke it out over a puzzle piece. jack was rebounding from strep and vivian was starting to come down with the ick too. (not the fish kind, the kid kind, which is worse!) naturally, this would be the time your dad always goes out of town- two kids usually means traveling husband. but as luck would have it, he was in town all of last week. monday night i managed to screw up my back at work, turns out as your body is preparing for baby's birth, you start producing a chemical called "relaxin." this chemical loosens bones, muscles and ligaments, but does not discriminate to one area of your body. i spent the majority of the rest of the week at the chiropractor or in bed. my sacrum, tailbone, refuses to stay in place. this might be one of the more painful things i have experienced throughout my pregnancies, as there is really not much i can take/do to alleviate the pain. standing is good; walking, bending, lifting, sleeping, sitting are all REALLY bad.

on wednesday i dropped vivian and daddy came to my rescue in the afternoon. your dear old mom cries about twice a year, you can double or maybe triple that when i am pregnant. so when randy got home and broke down into a full blown meltdown, he knew things were serious. i think it was a combination of pain, exhaustion and being plain worn out from feeling bad. keep in mind, i am still nauseous and throwing up on top of all of this other new stuff. randy gently put my back in to bed and said he had things under control- at that moment, i really believed him. and he did.

he took the next day off of work to stay home and take care of all three of us. he even managed to do the laundry and acquire all of the foods i was craving. (except jerre anne's and the d & g, both of which are closed and he asked me to focus on something more "possible!") it happened to be a 70 degree february day that day, he took you both outside and you all played in the yard. the snow had finally melted, leaving our yard a muddy, dog-poo-land-mine pit. but you all had fun and i even managed to make it outside and sit in the sunshine. it felt amazing. it also felt amazing to sit there and watch your daddy interact with the two of you. he is naturally a good father and you both adore him.

days and times like this are good for all of us- i get much needed rest and your relationship has an opportunity to develop without me intervening. its good for him to know he is perfectly capable, and you to know you can rely on him. it really is a beautiful thing to watch. i have this kind of relationship with my daddy and you are going to be so lucky if you maintain yours.

when randy and i started dating seven years ago there were certain characteristics about him that i fell in love with. above all, he is the funniest guy i know and makes me laugh all of the time. when they say laughter is the best medicine, they aren't kidding. i would never marry someone who didn't make me laugh and i suggest you follow the same rule. it will get you through many a tough time. additionally, i knew that your father was an innately GOOD person, that he would always take care of me and our future children. i mean that not in a financial sense, although he is a good provider, but that he would always care for my heart and well being. he has proven that so many times, but none quite so much as the last week. there is something really self-less about taking on all of the responsibilities of a household, in addition to your responsibilities outside of the home. he has given me very little grief about it and encouraged me to rest and recover. he's done all of the bath times, dispensed all of the medicine, fixed every bottle, cleaned, cooked, done laundry AND still managed to be nice to me and not resentful! what a man!

he has always been very helpful, but i do believe the third time is the charm. THIS time, he gets how hard it can be to be pregnant. he is doing things i normally have to nag ask him to do and doing so with a some what sunny disposition. we even managed to squeak in a date to the kona grille on saturday night- which coincidentally was the place we went on our first real date 7 years ago on march 1st. its hard to believe how quickly time marches on. our first date was more of an interview, i believe we both had grown tired of "dating" and the unknowns that come with it. i remember bouncing questions back and forth, "are you a republican?" "do you believe in God?" "do you go to church?" "do you want children?" "are you going to eat that last eel roll?" it was so much fun, we drank too much wine, talked too much and have been together ever since that moment.

i am so grateful for your daddy! i could not have made it through this week without him and his love. please, please, please let him be a guide for the persons you chose to spend forever with. trust me that some day you will thank me for this advice. i'm going to try my hardest to remember how great he was this week, when he goes on his next big hunting adventure. its the very least i can do!

"What a man, what a man, what a man
What a mighty good man
What a man, what a man, what a man
What a mighty good man
What a man, what a man, what a man
What a mighty good man
What a man, what a man, what a man
What a mighty good man

I wanna take a minute or two, and give much respect due
To the man that's made a difference in my world
And although most men are ho's he flows on the down low
Cuz I never heard about him with another girl
But I don't sweat it because it's just pathetic
To let it get me involved in that he said/she said crowd
I know that ain't nobody perfect, I give props to those who deserve it
And believe me y'all, he's worth it
So here's to the future cuz we got through the past
I finally found somebody that can make me laugh
(Ha ha ha) You so crazy
I think I wanna have your baby"

Salt N Pepa


  1. that was sooooo sweet! you and your children are very lucky, and so is Randy. I actually teared up twice while reading this. it is so cool that you are writing this, Carra. You will all be so thankful that you did. Luv you guys! Hope you and the kids feel better this week! p

  2. Yep, you don't ever, ever want to forget the minute you knew you were in love with "the one" because even when you are the maddest at him, if you can remember that one moment you KNEW, you will fall in love all over again. What a mighty, good, man......forever!

  3. I am with Pam, I was tearing up reading this. How sweet.